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What can we do if we have a family member with Alzheimer's disease?
The film "Father," by French writer Loren Zeller, based on his stage play "Father," is a film that manages to escape the boilerplate narrative and touch our hearts. An unforgettable, fleeting memory shared with his daughter fills the father's mind, a possible early symptom of Alzheimer's disease, flashing back to a jumbled, ordinary time when fragments of the past come and go, forming a picture of life in the present. The film does not reveal the old man's condition nakedly from the beginning, but rather a gradual process. The father refuses the family caregiver because he does not feel that he is growing old. This stubbornness, provocation, and strong temper make him seem to be against the whole world.
We can often hear how wonderful it is to be young, but youth is fleeting and illness and aging are as inevitable as death. Faced with time, none of us can fight it or go against it, but only face and accept it. Although "Father" is not cruel and heavy, the sorrow and pain in it hit our hearts. Our perspective follows the father, more empathetic, or rather a step-by-step insight into the state of Alzheimer's patients. Aging is a common phenomenon in today's society and Alzheimer's disease remains insurmountable, taking up a large percentage of the population.
People with Alzheimer's disease have become a vulnerable group that cannot be ignored by society. Memory loss confused thinking, and disorientation are unbearable for family members and themselves. This disease plagues countless people and is a subject of constant research in the medical community, as well as a constant struggle and brainstorming for many families. How to take care of the patient? How do let people with Alzheimer's disease live with dignity and decency? This is a real problem in front of many families. The film reflects a profound social reality in which the father is all around us; he could be our grandfather, our father, or our future self.
The daughter Annie's love for her father is affirmed and she does her best to take care of him. Many people say that only parents' love for their children is selfless, but now we sometimes doubt it. A daughter like Annie can be said to be very loyal to her father, which shows that a child's love for her parents is also selfless. The daughter is now an adult and she has a life and a world of her own. It seems that there are only two choices, one is to let the father stay at home and find a home nurse to take care of him, and the other is to send the father to a nursing home. However, due to the father's refusal attitude and the family caregiver's intolerant attitude towards him, the former was negated, leaving only the option of putting the father in a nursing home.
The problem lies not only in the authenticity of the memories and the confusion of the timeline, but also in the human feelings, or trust, that must accumulate. Accumulation means existing in memory. If the memory disappears, will the feelings and trust still exist? This is a very heartbreaking idea in the film "Father". In the film, the impatience shown by the father's imaginary son-in-law towards his father is perhaps the cruel problem faced by many families. We all grow old slowly, and perhaps the only thing we can do is to seize the moment and cherish the people around us who love us and the people we love. If we have the same experience as the movie, we may feel a lot of things when we watch this movie.
The Father does strike a deep chord with those of us who have begun to have these thoughts. The film's misplaced first-person perspective is enough to give a sense of the stress and family strain of suffering from cognitive impairment. It's a stage in life where caring for the sick requires a serious mind, but not a heavy one. Staying by their side may be a support. What can we do if we have someone with Alzheimer's disease in our family? This society seems to have a natural preference for children, yet can we show the same patience and tenderness to older people with Alzheimer's disease who are heading toward the end of their lives?
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